Daily Meditation:

There seem to two kinds of searchers: those who seek to make their ego something other than it is, i.e. holy, happy, unselfish (as though you could make a fish unfish), and those who understand that all such attempts are just gesticulation and play-acting, that there is only one thing that can be done, which is to disidentify themselves with the ego, by realizing its unreality, and by becoming aware of their eternal identity with pure being. - Fingers Pointing Toward the Moon by Wei Wu Wei

Once again it comes back to the ego. Trying to be something other then what we are. Yes, we can change. It is possible but sometimes improbable. So really we have to give up who we perceive ourselves to be totally. We can remake ourselves the way we want to be. We can rise to a higher place. Becoming something greater. All our experiences, all of that which makes us comes together. We then become something that is greater then the sum of our parts.